Understanding roles
Female dom/sub and male dom/sub: meanings and differences
You don't need to memorize every term. Separate two questions: who the term refers to, and which relationship role they prefer.
PLAYBLIND GUIDE
Words to help you understand yourself
The language of relationships and preferences
From unfamiliar role names to making sense of test results. Start with the questions on your mind.
Understanding roles
What is a male top? Top/bottom versus male dom/sub
Taking an active role and taking the lead aren't always the same. Treating top/bottom and dominant/submissive as one dimension can lead to mismatched expectations.
Community & app
BDSM community terms and how to choose an app
Shared interests don't automatically make a compatible relationship. Understanding each other's expectations and boundaries matters more than labels.
Understanding terms
Pegging and strap-ons: distinguishing the activity from the tool
Pegging refers to an activity; a strap-on refers to a device. Interest in either does not define your role or sexual orientation.
Reading your results
How to read BDSM test results and percentages
A higher score isn't a better score. Your results are a starting point for understanding which patterns your current answers lean toward.
Understanding relationships
Attachment styles and relationship types: what’s the difference?
Rather than asking what kind of person you are, look at how you respond to closeness and conflict. That makes the results more useful.
Choosing a test
Choosing a preference test: BDSM, fetishes, identity and attraction
People mean different things by a sexual preferences test. Start by asking whether you want to explore roles, sensations, or attraction.